QUESTION: What does it feel like to be the designer of your life?
The most important choice in my journey, which has made me a genuinely happy person, was simply deciding to do it my way. To be, as I said above, the designer of my life. From what I do and create, to what I absorb and let into my World. It’s made all the difference and that’s become my mission: to help others be the designers of their lives, and to, “fill their day with something good.” The happiness formula. So, in everything I release, from my more entertaining content (Podcast) to my more educational content (Architect Program), the goal and missions are the same. Help you take control of your life, and do it in an enjoyable way.
FROM LOST COLLEGE GRAD…
✅ FANCY DEGREE
✅ GREAT CAREER PROSPECTS
✅ FUTURE MAPPED OUT
TO LIVING WITH PURPOSE!
✅ PASSION IN EVERY DAY
✅ MAPPING MY OWN LIFE PATH
✅ CAREER I LOVE (MY OWN!)
✅ HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY!
The first MAJOR leap forward for my life was to walk away. I had to walk away from the career trajectory I was on. From the degree in Biomedical Engineering. From 4 years of education to get that Bachelor of Science. That was HARD! After all, it wasn’t just me that was invested in that future. My parents were my financial benefactors, and I had to say, “Thank you, but I’m going to do something totally different.” But as I said above… you’re either the designer of your life, or you’re going to be unhappy. I was unhappy and I needed to make a change.
I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do. I had no plan, mostly because I didn’t know who I was? I’d relied so heavily upon the opinions of others (well-intentioned and loving opinions!), that I had almost no idea what I wanted. I say, “almost no idea,” because I had one idea. MUSIC. It was the only thing, at the time, that I KNEW I loved. Ast for the rest of my interests, I wasn’t sure if they came from me, or from the desire for praise. So, I began writing songs, and started a band, and played shows around Long Island and a few in New York City… all while I searched and experimented and tested my other interests.
While I was out there playing tunes for the World (ok, small crowds… quite small, lol), I pursued those interests of mine towards teaching. This was when I started to really get into designing my life with purpose and intent and some of the thought experiments I did back then made their way into The Architect Program. I also knew I didn’t want to teach in the traditional way, in the school system. I was beginning to understand that my purpose just didn’t fit into that path. I was about challenging the traditional paths laid out before me, and so I entered entrepreneurship.
Enter Roaming Scholars, the tutoring company I formed back in 2012. I was able to use my interest and knowledge in math and science, and the education I left behind a little. I was able to teach how I wanted. Explain concepts differently, and encourage them to question the reasons behind the concepts. To search for the reasons why something works the way it does. I was also able to witness first hand how confused and anxious most of my students felt about their futures. Knowing that feeling all too well, I wanted to share what had made me happy and how I figured out what I wanted to do with my life. So, I started offering my first version of “The Architect Program.”
Then, something was missing. My music fell to the wayside, my creative outlet fell away as I grew my business and my contentment started to wane a bit. It was easily identified as I go through The Architect Program exercises every year, and realized I was only using some of my interests. I also realized I didn’t enjoy the managing aspect of running a tutoring business. Managing other tutors. I just didn’t want to do it. So, I fine-tuned my design. Today, as THE Roaming Scholar, I deliver content and services that pull every part of myself together… for you. My interests in writing and music, my passion for teaching, and my purpose.
I’m always growing, always exploring, always fine-tuning. Every step in my journey has led me to be more confident and sure of myself, and happier and happier along the way. I haven’t been unhappy for many many years, but I’m definitely happier than I was last year and the year before that. That’s the game, and it’s my hope that everything I deliver to you, and you consume from me, helps you grow in a similar fashion and fills your day with something good!
Cheers to your journey ahead! It’s going to be an amazing trip!
aka The Roaming Scholar